Tag: loss of autonomy

If you find that you have an unwanted pregnancy, this pregnancy could instead be seen as a call and opportunity for your growth as a human being. Motherhood is not as popularly perceived – a burden. Rather than being seen as an unbearable, undoable burden because of study, financial or other obligations, it might be possible to see it as a call to nurture and care for another human being, one who is among the most important of human beings ever to exist in your life, despite apparently insurmountable obstacles. Women sometimes think of the perfect time for having a baby. There is never a perfect time for anyone. Motherhood is a challenge for all women. But it is a calling and a high calling at that. Rather than seeing this pregnancy as a clump of nondescript cells, your pregnancy as a call to the noble act of bringing new life into the world can be seen as just that, the noble, honourable thing to do. Virtues have been denigrated in our culture. The calling to rise from self-absorption to concern about others has been denigrated in men and women but up until our recent past, meaning the past 70 years or so, it was a common and accepted part of womanhood to be focused on the needs of others, including the vulnerable. No one on the planet is as vulnerable as a developing child in the womb. You are the only lifeline for your baby. The vulnerable child you carry is depending on you, and only you, for survival in this world. Consider the possibility that you have been lied to by our culture about where true joy lies – whether in self-absorption and self-fulfillment or in your God-created desire to care for others, especially your own child. Be honourable. Be noble. Be courageous. Lay aside your ambitions and hopes. If you need to, seek help from crisis pregnancy centres near you. They will support you emotionally and perhaps materially or will direct you to other supportive organisations. Forget about the lies about you being number one and find fulfillment in what you were designed for – by God – to be the nurturing, giving, supportive Mum you were called to be, beginning with providing the only means of life to the child you carry. You, and only you, can provide this lifeline to your child. For your own sake, and for that of your child, rise to the challenge, and it will be a challenge but a gratifying one, of rising to God’s call for you as a woman. There are multitudes of women for whom the opportunity to bear a child has passed them by forever because they did not take THIS opportunity. Put your life on temporary hold for the opportunity of rising to your calling as a woman of honour and maturity. Be a bearer of life, not death.